Revenge is a very dirty word for many. For quite a few revenge provides the impetus to go beyond their comfort zone fueled by the emotion of anger. Many athletes like Mike Phelps have used – sometimes artificially – to create anger in themselves by creating situation of vengeance against other competitors.
That, one does feel like fighting someone when wronged is natural. It is human. There is nothing “right” or “wrong” about the emotion or the feeling. It is however, ineffective when people, in their attempt to take their anger out on someone concentrate on hurting the other person. It is not in your hands to punish someone. You can conspire and plot against someone, but it will simply waste your time and energy on someone else’s fall than your rise.
It is my conviction that, if you are very angry and really mad with someone. and all you can think of at a time is to seek revenge from him/her, raise yourself! Do you damndest best to focus on yourself to an extent that you can take out each and every of your weaknesses and work on your strengths so much, that anyone – not just the person you seek revenge from – feels small in front of you. Such should be your stature and being that the other person feels really small.
Plotting, machinations and conspiracies hurt – but that vengeful fighting leads to the other person seeking righteous outlet to his anger and frustration against you. But if you just raise yourself versus him to a level that he obviously feels small – then (1) he can’t say or do anything righteously, and (2) he will have to live with that feeling of being small quietly, then you leave him bereft of any outlet!
Venting anger is an outlet. That is the easy way out. Being angry and no way to vent it is the worst injury you can inflict on someone. It is a way to hit the person with his own mind. The same mind that hurts the other will be turned on itself.
Meanwhile you will not spend time on someone else.. but your ownself. Spending time on bettering your ownself and raising yourself up is the best use of time. Spending time for someone else is of no value and a complete waste.
Even if your stature doesn’t extract revenge, raising yourself would have improved your own lot, which is a great result – despite a situation of “loss”. But if you concentrate on the other and you “lose” you would have wasted the time and not even helped yourself!
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